A nice way to stay present and mindful in your day is to actively listen to someone who’s talking to you. Sounds simple right? But in fact, it’s really hard to truly listen to someone speaking. Most of us multi-task and think about other things, or even what we’d like to stay next without really listening to what someone’s saying. Make an effort today to really listen to whoever’s talking to you. If you feel yourself drifting off in thought, don’t get mad at yourself, just give yourself a nudge to come back to the conversation. You’d be shocked how nice it is to really listen. Plus, your friend will appreciate it!
Multi-tasking is constantly around us. You’re checking your phone while watching television, writing an email while attending a meeting or eating lunch at your desk.
Today, take a moment to single task. Try closing all of your browsers and any additional distractions. Just write an email, nothing else. Or, in your morning meeting, be fully present in that meeting. You may slow down your work day a bit, but you’ll be mindful along the way, and less likely to make a mistake.
So you’ve decided that it’s goodbye to current company, on to the next one. Congrats on making the decision to change jobs. It’s a difficult decision to make, to decide that you’re done with a current place or role, and that you need to leave in order to fulfill your general desires.
Now that you’re rolling on out, here are some good steps to take to make the process as seamless as possible. Read on dear friends.
- Double-check in with yourself. Is this the time? Is there anything your current company could do to make you stay? If so, start considering taking that route. If there’s a lot that you like in your current role, and there’s just a few key pieces to focus on, you may want to give your company and supervisor a chance to make the change. Be aware that using ultimatums will hint to them that you’re thinking about leaving, so you may want something tangible to back anything up.
- Find the good (and bad). Start tracking what you like about your current role, company or supervisor. Start tracking what you don’t like, and write them all down. These focal points will help you hone in your job search.
- Drop to 90%. Job hunting is a second job, and working while looking is incredibly difficult. In order to commit to both your new job and current job, find some space to drop a bit. It may be as simple as keeping a to-do list rather than keeping it in your head. Or, reducing your water cooler time so that you can leave a bit earlier for an interview.
- Commit to your tasks. As much as you’re dropping a bit of your energy, you don’t want to leave your current position and company in disgrace. While working, be clear about what you can complete and when, rather than letting anything slide.
- Keep it out of the office. Starting to share that you’re thinking about leaving brews an unhappy concoction. Keep your job hunt to yourself, and keep your job hunting hours off work hours (and off your work computer). If you have some trusted advisors you can lean on them for network connections, but overall, try to keep your hunt your own personal hunt.
- Prep for the role. Off work hours, start reading other job postings, especially ones at your own company. Identify the parts of the role that you enjoy, and language that’s used, and start to hunt for job roles that use similar language. Consider adding language to your resume that mirrors it.
- Resume prep. To come… there’s so much out there for resumes!
Have you ever had a week that you hit 3pm each day without realizing lunch was a good idea? Or that you never saw sunshine from your desk? When we’re running from meeting to meeting and while in those meetings answering emails and chats that are on separate topics, at some point, I’m pretty sure ours brains explode. It also quickly leaves space for us to make mistakes, like sending an email to the wrong person or sharing a document that makes little sense.
In order to gain more time, it’s important to know the way we perceive time also changes as we age and it’s closely linked to how many details we take in. According to David Eagleman in a New Yorker article:
The more detailed the memory, the longer the moment seems to last. “This explains why we think that time speeds up when we grow older,” Eagleman said – why childhood summers seem to go on forever, while old age slips by while we’re dozing. The more familiar the world becomes, the less information your brain writes down, and the more quickly time seems to pass.
By taking a moment to slow down our day and experience life, we’re not becoming less productive, we’re actually creating space for prioritization and gaining control of our working hours. So the next time you’re feeling like the day is getting away from you – that’s the best time to be stepping away and taking a breath.
Here are some reasons you should slow down (and tips on how!)
- Improve creativity – stepping away gives your brain time to marinate thoughts!
- Nab some quick clarity – try reviewing (or creating) a to-do list. Let that guide what you really need to do today.
- Lower your stress levels – try taking a deep breath, or maybe a quick 5-minute meditation. That email can wait 5 minutes. Unless it’s directions on how to complete a currently happening open-heart surgery. If it is, please write the email.
- Control multi-tasking by being a single-tasker – there are very few people who can truly multi-task. I’m talking only 2%. Seriously. When you have a few tasks at hand, try giving one of them your all. See how that feels. Pretty good, right?
- Block you-time – set aside 30 minutes every day in your calendar at work. If it gets booked over, move it. But always have those 30 minutes. It’ll help you with overflow from other meetings and give you a chance to go get lunch and get out there in the world.
- Take it all in – when you’re not at your desk, either walking or driving to work, really take in the sights. Enjoy the little silly moments in your commute rather than firing off emails. Emails will be there when you get into the office, and you’ll have a clear head when you get there.
- Say no – eliminate commitments, move deadlines, step away from meetings that aren’t helpful. It’ll give you more time to focus on the things you truly need to do.
Good luck slowing down!